Good advice; or is it?

April 22, 2010

We probably all give and receive what passes for “good advice“.

So, “looking before you leap” is likely a good thing. It makes sense to think matters through, rather than throwing oneself blindly into the known or the unknown. Being careful in this way can prevent a lot of problems, and save you time and wasted effort. This is ok.

However, some people are overly cautious. If we advise looking before leaping here, we may be encouraging the person to delay beyond a sensible point. We may be contributing to even-greater paralysis, which might be ok, but life is for living, is it not? Can we, as Rudyard Kipling suggets we should:

… fill the unforgiving minute, with sixty seconds’ worth of distance run?

With this in mind, pause when you turn a card, and say nothing for a few seconds or longer to let your greater intelligence present a lot or a little information to the conscious mind.

When you turn a card, it isn’t really just a trigger for the reader to show how much he or she knows. or to talk about something that they happen to find exciting at the time.

The reader might remember that a card is part of an answer to someone else’s question – that may not be the kind of question the reader would ever ask.  Yet it is important enough to the person who asked. We are the reader first, and not automatically the all-wise, all-knowing expert.

John Ballantrae for The Tarot Home Study Course
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How reading cards is like playing a round of golf.

April 18, 2010

I have never played golf, but I’ve seen it on tv and have a general idea of what is involved.

Let’s say the golf ball is 145 yards from the hole, and you know you can reach the green with one shot. The club you choose and how you swing it will depend on many small decisions – the ball may be lying on short grass or long; or on pine needles beneath a tree; or in a sand trap; there may be a strong cross-wind or no wind at all; humidity may be a factor to consider.

Someone asks: Will I marry?, and you turn the 6 of Coins. The card is a bit like the golf ball mentioned in the previous paragraph – you know what it is and generally what to do with it. Yes, you’ve seen the card before, but if we consider that each moment is unique, then you probably haven’t played that card before for that questioner at that part of the reading, preceded by other particular cards.

So. Can you interpret the card, using your knowledge, as if you had never seen it before, yet you still know what to do?

The golfer never played that ball from that exact spot in the same weather conditions, yet can still play a great shot.

Can you take the symbolism of the card and interpret it in connection with, not just the question asked, but as well as the point you are at in the reading? It could be the first card, so you need to give some background information or emphasize certain parts of the picture. It could be part-way through the reading, so you don’t need to say as much because you have already given a basis for understanding with earlier cards.

If you were to look at a card and resist the temptation to assume you already know what it “means” – from something you memorized in a book, or from past experience – what new insights would you have? A lot of them, I suspect. You will probably be closer to giving a personalized answer that makes more sense to the questioner – and have a new confidence in your ability to read cards. For More.

Can’t we just answer people’s questions as they ask them?

April 12, 2010

Why can’t we just answer people’s questions as they ask them?

Someone might want to know: When will I get married?

The reader might not want to give a date; or might might feel more comfortable looking at the dynamics of relationships for that person.

But the questioner wants to know, rightly or wrongly: When will I get married? In the end, it’s not about the reader, so why not say: It’s not my speciality, but let’s see what we can do.

Will you be married within one year?
Pick a card and read it. Upright means Yes; reversed means No. The card shows the reasons.

The Emperor reversed: No, you won’t be married within a year, because you want someone strong and forceful and you haven’t met him yet. Or you meet someone who is too strong and too pushy, and you find it doesn’t suit you. Either way, the questioner is going to recognize the person, so you’ve given enough information without taking away the questioner’s ability to enjoy or learn from what will happen between them.

Within two years? 3 of Cups. Yes, you will be married within two years. So there’s at least one relationship that doesn’t go well enough before you meet the right person. Marriage looks good and happy and cooperative with a lot to enjoy and celebrate, so you and your extended family get along well. The atmosphere of the card is a good match with a happy and fulfilling relationship.

Will marriage have taken place by the winter of that year? Knight of Batons, upright. Yes and with this card, you can be considering travel plans, or going back to school for better qualifications. It could be a destination wedding.

Backing up a little in time: Will marriage have taken place by the fall of that year? Queen of Swords, reversed. No, it won’t. Why not? Perhaps to fit the plans of an older woman – a mother of one of the people? It could be some battle-axe of an older woman who is against the marriage, but the first Yes card is the 3 of Cups and is friendly, so let’s assume that the couple won’t have to overcome strong objections to the marriage. If the Yes card had been the King of Swords, then this reversed Queen would have told a different story.

So: Wil you get married? Yes, near the end of a year from now.

Some people just want a general picture of future conditions with, ideally, something to look forward to. It may not be what we are looking for or would be content with; but the reading is for and about the questioner, and not about us.